The Intimacy Series
A warm, plain-spoken guide to real closeness — communication, trust, desire, and presence — in short, honest episodes for listeners of every kind.
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Intimacy isn't sex, and it isn't romance — it's the experience of being known. We draw the line clearly so the rest of the series has a foundation.
Emotional, physical, intellectual, and experiential closeness — most struggles come from leaning on one and starving the others.
Nobody is born good at intimacy. The people who seem effortless just practiced — and you can too.
Opening up is the doorway to closeness — and it's a muscle you build in small, safe reps.
Trust isn't a grand gesture; it's a thousand small moments of showing up as you said you would.
Trust can be repaired — but on a realistic timeline, and only with the right ingredients.
You can't connect while narrating yourself in your own head. Presence is the exit from the performance trap.
Wanting grows in safe soil. When the nervous system feels safe, everything else opens up.
Most of us inherited quiet rules about what's "okay." Naming them is the first step to setting them down.
You can't be curious and judgmental at the same time. Curiosity is the posture that makes closeness possible.
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Inside the series
A guided journey in three sections. Start with the foundations, then explore as far as you like.
Section A — Foundations
What intimacy actually is, and the core skills underneath every close relationship — trust, vulnerability, presence, and repair. The front-door track that everything else builds on.
How to say what you want, hear what your partner needs, and navigate consent with confidence. Practical language for the conversations most people avoid.
Why wanting ebbs and flows, how desire really works, and what quietly kills it. Tools for understanding your own patterns and reawakening the spark.
Keeping passion and closeness alive through conflict, drift, and the long haul. The habits that separate connected couples from roommates.
Making peace with your body, knowing your own pleasure, and feeling desirable on your own terms. Confidence as something you build, not something you're born with.
The language of touch, from a first caress to slowing down and reading your partner. How to communicate care and desire with your hands, not just your words.
Section B — Exploration and Kink
Adults only · ExplicitA judgment-free door into kink — consent, safewords, negotiation, and aftercare. Everything you need to explore safely and confidently.
Dominance, submission, switching, and the trust that makes power play work. How structure and surrender can feel freeing rather than limiting.
Sensation play, bondage basics, and heightening the senses — always safety-first. Learning your body's limits and how to play within them.
Where fetishes come from and how to explore them without shame. Non-judgmental education, plus how to bring one up with a partner.
The healthy role of fantasy and how to share one without fear. Turning imagination into connection instead of secrecy.
Choosing body-safe toys, caring for them, and bringing them into solo and partnered play. A beginner-to-enthusiast guide to gear worth owning.
Threesomes, play parties, and the wider community — handled with consent and etiquette. What to expect and how to explore respectfully.
Sexting, photos, and keeping desire alive across any distance, done safely and privately. Modern intimacy for phones, screens, and time zones.
Breath, presence, and slowing down to deepen pleasure and connection. The meditative, full-body side of intimacy.
The advanced capstone — high-intensity practices covered risk-first and referral-oriented. Where knowing the rules matters most.
The most explicit track in the series — a plain-spoken, consent-first tour of specific sexual acts and techniques, covering what people actually do, always health- and safety-first. 63 episodes.
Section C — Relationship Structures and Life
Monogamy, open relationships, and ethical non-monogamy, explained without an agenda. How to design agreements that actually work for you.
Intimacy through pregnancy, aging, illness, medication, and every season of life. Honest, practical guidance for when bodies and circumstances change.
Reconnecting after heartbreak, betrayal, or trauma — with care and referral to professional help. Reclaiming pleasure and trust on your own timeline.
About the host
Schuyler was born in the 1960s, a child of the flower-child generation, raised by liberal parents who taught him that openness beats judgment. He went to art school, found his way into finance, came out as gay in the 1980s, and in 1990 settled into a quiet suburban life in Florida. Then September 11th shook everything loose — life's too short — and he started actually living it: bolder, more curious, more himself. The gatherings he hosted grew into something bigger — sex-positive parties built on consent, warmth, and zero shame. A friendship with a longtime patron of Bob's Adult Books in Salem, Oregon deepened into a business partnership, and when his friend passed, Schuyler stepped into ownership of the shop. He's always been the type to ask — over the years he's built a deep bench of trusted advisors and experts, and he leans on them heavily to make this show, because he's the first to admit he doesn't know it all. As his father, a librarian, taught him: you don't need to know everything, you just need to know the people who do. The Intimacy Series is the sum of that whole journey — generous, grounded, and unafraid to talk about what most people won't.